——— A Message To Christian Women ———
We are social beings. We were meant to relate with others, and we maintain our emotional health when we stay connected with friends and family.
In your bid to stay connected, be social, but cut out the many social things that serve no useful purpose in your life. One tip is to gently excuse yourself from phone calls that simply make you gossip or talk of things you are later ashamed of, and which may bring in their wake unnecessary issues. Another is to prioritize the social demands upon your time. Do not feel pressured to respond to every call upon your time.
You belong to a family and live in society so you cannot avoid social functions, but do not make yourself a self-appointed “funeral director” who must be at every funeral whether the person who died was known to you or not, or “unofficial party/wedding coordinator” who must be part of every wedding or outdooring.
Pick and choose what you must attend. If you cannot attend, send a donation or a greeting. If you are married, make sure your husband consents to your engagements and does not resent your constantly being on the move on weekends, neglecting him. You cannot live to please everyone and deprive your own family of your time.
As an emotional being, you need friends, but control your friendships. Remember that however bad the people in your family may be, you had no hand in choosing them; you’re stuck with them! You however have the power of choice when it comes to your friendships. Choose your friends wisely, and control your social interaction. That includes your social media chats and other adventures. Please make sure you do not spend time that could be used productively on social media platforms.
PREPARING FOR A RELATIONSHIP: If you are a single woman in a relationship with an intended marriage partner, or even hoping to attract one, let him see the real you. Do not behave like Madam Perfect, always available at his beck and call to the neglect of your quiet time, personal Bible reading/study time, and your school work, or the demands of your job. If you do, he will resent you when you begin to take care of all those things after he marries you. He will accuse you of lying to him to trap him and that will be no good foundation for your marriage.
YOUR RESPONSIBILITY TO YOURSELF
Give yourself personal space. Find time in the hustle and bustle to relax, and do things that will help you grow into the godly woman of substance you were created to be. And remember also that a lady’s appearance says a lot about her. Whether you are single, a single mother, a married young woman, find time within your busy schedule to take proper care of yourself, e.g. your body, your skin, hair, nails, clean clothes. This will help you develop self-esteem. It will also be useful if you intend to attract serious-minded godly men, or to keep your husband proud of the way you carry yourself, or simply to look and feel properly groomed. You deserve the self-esteem that comes with taking proper care of your physical appearance.
Go on lady, give yourself a fresh start to a life of purpose. Time is ticking…